Anxious designs is going to do better to-break out-of that cycle and you will encircle by themselves with individuals, family members and you may partners similar, who lift them right up, instead of knock them down

Psychologists Bartholomew and you may Horowitz has hypothesized a model exhibiting one to your attachment method corresponds to the amount of confident/bad care about-visualize, while the self-confident/bad picture of anyone else. 21

Protects showcase both positive self-images and you may confident attitudes out of anybody else. Anxious products exhibit bad worry about-images, but confident attitudes out of anybody else (and that its needy choices).

Avoidants showcase self-confident self-photo and you can negative attitudes out of anyone else (hence the arrogance and you may concern with relationship), and nervous-avoidants showcase bad thinking out-of almost everything and everyone (which the incapacity working when you look at the dating).